The Art of Owning Your Shadow

“Unless you learn to face your own shadows, you will continue to see them in others, because the world outside is only a reflection of the world inside.” ― Unknown

A trip meant to give me a place to stay for a few weeks ended in much-needed introspection. This past month my friend opened her condo in Mexico to me. It wasn't a vacation, but I knew being across the world could be an experience if I wanted it to be.

I researched spiritual & shadow work and knew what I wanted to do with my time here.

What is a Spiritual Journey?

A spiritual journey describes the process of a person embarking on a quest to deepen their knowledge, understanding, and wisdom about themselves, the world, and God.

What is Shadow Work?

Shadow work involves getting in touch with the parts of yourself that you've repressed — or what many might refer to as their "dark side."

My first week in Mexico consisted of meditation and journaling. I ended each night reflecting on what I had learned.

"Learning how to slow down."

"Learning how to have fun."

"Learning how to stay off my phone."

In my second week, I started doing shadow work prompts. Some came naturally, and others I couldn't touch without feeling overwhelmed and flustered.

Three shadow work prompts

Am I okay with the fact that not everyone will like me? Why or why not? How does it make me feel?

When I think about my future, I am most afraid of what?

What are negative traits that I don't like about myself? Should I fix them? Why or why not?

Three benefits of shadow work 

• Self-acceptance

It won't necessarily come easily. But beginning shadow work opens the door for you to get there. First, accept where you were, where you are, and where you're going

• Better clarity 

Shadow work gives you better clarity on how your thoughts, emotions, and feelings lead you to act the way you do.

• Gain more confidence

You can show up more confidently when you show up as the full version of yourself, shadow and all.

Overall, I had a unique, life-changing experience in Mexico and learned much about myself.

The only way to show up authentically is to discover and accept your shadow self.

it's important to go through the process with self-compassion, says Boateng. "We mustn't judge ourselves for the behavior, but hold ourselves accountable for healing from the experience."

Pause, take a deep breath, and remind yourself that you're safe and can begin whenever you're ready.


XO,

S.E. ANTHONY