ENTANGLEMENTS VS HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
The word ENTANGLEMENT has morphed into a life of its own and has people questioning themselves and their relationships asking “How do I know if I’m in one?” Here’s a breakdown of my definition of both words and 4 signs for each.
What Is an Entanglement?
Just like it sounds, the experience of getting all tangled up with a man. In a physical, spiritual, or emotional sense. Whatever it is, yall are not on the same page. In an entanglement, one partner stands still while the other attempts to push and pull him toward the end goal. And the end goal is often a fantasy, the other partner has made up. “Dating Potential” is what I like to call it. A sense of feeling like this can be something but in reality, It will always feel one-sided. You may often feel drained, feel like you’re “doing too much” or find yourself begging for the bare minimum. An entanglement can last months or years, but it goes nowhere. The drama may give the illusion of movement—you fight, makeup, and appear to move forward—but you’re really just going around in a circle. recognize the situation for what it is and move on.
4 Signs You’re In An Entanglement
1. Feeling not seen and overlooked a lot.
2. A need to stay connected motivated by a fear of abandonment
3. More negative feelings than positive about the relationship
4. Unable or afraid to share parts of yourself due to fear of rejection and judgment
What is a Healthy Relationship?
In a healthy relationship, both partners are equally committed to moving forward together; it’s an even exchange of energy and a common understanding. No one is wondering “what is this” or has to ask the question of “what are we” It’s very clear from the very beginning. Relationships refer to the ability to relate fluidly in a way that is meaningful to both parties. A healthy relationship embodies a healthy give and take. It is never one-sided.
4 Signs You’re In A Healthy Relationship
Both feel safe and relaxed around each other
More positive feelings than negative about the relationship
Knows and respects each other’s love languages
You feel comfortable expressing your opinions and concerns to your partner without fear of judgment
Relationship VS. Entanglement
There is a big difference between a relationship and an entanglement. Relationships offer clarity while entanglements bring confusion. You can begin to tell the difference between a healthy relationship and a negative entanglement by checking in on how you feel. Do you feel loved and cared for? Do you feel understood? Or do you feel drained? Constantly having to question things and or yourself. Feeling like you’re asking for too much due to your needs not being met? What side of you is this connection bringing out?
Don’t brush your feelings under the rug to make someone else comfortable. Notice when your needs are not being met and DO NOT IGNORE RED FLAGS. “Asking twice is too close to begging”
Checkpoints:
What am I feeling?
What side of me is this connection bringing out?
What do I want?